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Why Would My Girlfriend Dream of Her Ex?

By: Libby Pelham BA - Updated: 12 Jun 2019 | comments*Discuss
 
Why Would My Girlfriend Dream Of Her Ex?

Q.

My girlfriend of one and a half years had a dream she married an old flame from her university days in MY parents back garden, which we have visted in the past.

It was so real she actually had to check her finger to see there was no ring.

She wouldn't tell me who it was, but needless to say I'm not happy about it. Can you tell me what it all means?

(GF, 12 February 2009)

A.

Knowing that your significant other is dreaming about an ex is understandably alarming, but it rarely means that he or she wants to reconnect with that person. You have to look beyond the ex to see what the dream really means. If she just recently broke up with the ex, she may be trying to subconsciously resolve issues over the breakup and heal her feelings and psyche. This is especially true if she is dreaming about the two of them arguing. While she may feel like she has moved on from that relationship during waking hours, her mind may be reminding her she still needs to resolve her feelings about it.

More likely, it is that she thinking about a particular aspect of that former relationship. Most people date because they find attractive qualities in their mate. But, with the good comes the bad and often couples cannot overcome their differences and break up for whatever reason.

However, in our subconscious, the part of that mate that we loved is still very much alive. What she is dreaming about was that quality, not the man himself. Try to find out what the two are doing in her dreams. Is there something he did that you don’t? If they are doing something romantic in the dream, analyse your relationship and see if the same type of romance is there. If not, you may want to try to improve in that area. Did she dream the two were house hunting? Maybe she is ready to take your relationship to the next level. Try to focus on what was going on in the dream and not just the person in the dream.

The mere fact that your girlfriend mentioned that she dreamed about her ex should help relieve any anxiety that she wants to get back together with him. If that were the case, she probably would have felt guilty and not have mentioned the dream to you. The fact that she shared this dream shows how closely she feels to you. Chances are, she is just as puzzled about this dream as you are.

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