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What Triggers Dreams About Being Attacked?

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What Triggers Dreams About Being Attacked?

Q.

Can you explain what triggers dreams/nightmares about being attacked (and also mess and clutter)?

I am 78 yrs old and have had recurring dreams such as these for over 20 years and am now seeking some clarification.

(IW, 13 February 2009)

A.

Dreaming of being attacked is actually quite common. In some cases, people who suffer from post traumatic stress disorder or some other type of anxiety ailment due to an actual physical attack may dream of being attacked as their psyche still tries to deal with the incident.

More than likely though, a dream of being attacked is generally triggered by the suppression or fear of something going on in your life. While in your dream, you may be attacked by any number of things – a man, a monster, or a wild animal – but, what is actually attacking you is some disturbing area in your life that you may not notice or may think you have under control during waking hours. When we don’t openly acknowledge our fears, they show up in our dreams, where our minds are much freer and open to feelings.

Look at all aspects of your life and try to pinpoint the area of stress. You say you have had this dream off and on for 20 years. Go back 20 years and see what was going on in your life. Did you retire when you were 58? If you did, was it of your own free will or were you forced to due to an illness? Or, had you ever worked outside the home? Maybe you felt guilty and less than useful being a homemaker. It may be that at 58, you were re-examining your youth and realized you missed out on something – getting married, having children, having a career.

And, it may be that at 58, you began to realize that your body was getting older and time was no longer on your side. Many of us think when we are young that we will never get old, but in your forties and fifties, you really begin to notice physical and mental changes and realize that age is creeping up on you.

If the anxiety that goes with aging is not dealt with, but only suppressed, what is “attacking” you in your dreams is the fear of getting older and eventually death. The dreams of clutter and mess could be that you feel if you died today, there would be areas that would be left in chaos, where it is something physical like the clutter in your home or mental like having a will or telling people you love them.

If that is the case, you may want to seek counseling. Twenty years is a long time to have reoccurring dreams and it may take a professional to help you deal with the issues. If you cannot afford counseling, talk to family and friends about this anxiety and try to come to terms with it. Meditate on seeking peace with this problem each night before you go to sleep. Recognize the anxiety, but concentrate on not allowing it to creep into your dreams anymore.

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Lil - 18-Jun-18 @ 3:21 PM
KT - Your Question:
So I have tons of dreams of my children being attacked and I can’t save them. It’s uaully a little girl attacking them and my husband. Last time she was screaming and floating over me and then it just went black and the screaming continued til I woke up. Do you have any idea why I would be constantly dreaming stuff like this.

Our Response:
It could possibly be merely the protective instinct of you as a parent kicking in.
AnalyseDreams - 18-Jun-18 @ 2:08 PM
Kay - Your Question:
I had a dream that I was being beat up by a lot of people. more like a gang of people. Some people I knew as a child but haven’t talked to them in years. I just got out of this really complicated emotionally abusive relationship and have had messed up dream. was getting beat up by these girls about them messing with my ex and I didn’t care and then my ex came over to me very intoxicated and he’s scary when he’s drunk and he pinned me down and was yelling at me in my face and also throughout the years of us dating he always accused me of cheating over and over and I never did, back to the dream. and then he picked me up and just through me to the ground and started yelling at me again and there was people just watching and those girls were laughing and I started crying and woke up cryin.

Our Response:
I am sorry to hear this. Your dream is obviously the residue of the abusive relationships in your life. However, as upsetting as this dream was, it may also be a pointer that by grouping your abusive relationships together, it telling you that all this is behind you and it is time to move on. Dreams such as this can be your own subconscious telling you that you want to move on from such situations and that this is firmly in the past.
AnalyseDreams - 18-Jun-18 @ 12:58 PM
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KT - 16-Jun-18 @ 4:40 AM
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Kay - 15-Jun-18 @ 9:50 PM
Kila - Your Question:
Last Night I had a dream That Me and my parents Moved to a New house it was full with pretty furnitures, I just see everyone in the dream so happy. During the day before I went to sleep We are kinda having Money problems So I guess thats what triggered it ? I don't understand what the dream meant. I'm 14 by the way I just been having really weird dreams.

Our Response:
Your dream may be a projection of your positive and wishful thinking. However, your dream may also be a symbolic and predictive dream that although your parents may be having money problems currently all will be OK and the money problems will not last. We know when a dream may be symbolic as it will be strong and leave a lasting feeling with you that you cannot shake off. Sometimes a symbolic or predictive dream needs to be only one short image, but that image can tell you more about what may happen. It feels like you are looking into a crystal ball.
AnalyseDreams - 14-Jun-18 @ 12:11 PM
K.P - Your Question:
I had a dream that my mom was attacked?? She saw a man that had been stalking her at the park. We decided to leave the park and go home. When we got there the man was there. He barged into our home and began attacking my mom. I grabbed a knife and tried to stab him but he knocked it out of my hand and then held me at gun point and told me to back away. After, he took a knife and began cutting my moms arm off. This was the scariest, most real, dream I’ve ever had and I woke up feeling sick and disgusted about it.

Our Response:
It is quite difficult to interpret a dream without having some background information of why the dream may have happened. For instance, the stalker you speak of, is he a real-life one or a dream one? However, the dream means that you are obviously feeling protective of your mother in some way. Is she having a bad time? Or is she vulnerable currently? If the answers are yes, then it is simply a dream of about the concern you have regarding something your mother may be going through. Somehow your protective instinct has surfaced and you would have to think about out what part of you or your mother's life this connects to.
AnalyseDreams - 14-Jun-18 @ 10:46 AM
I had a dream that my mom was attacked?? She saw a man that had been stalking her at the park. We decided to leave the park and go home. When we got there the man was there. He barged into our home and began attacking my mom. I grabbed a knife and tried to stab him but he knocked it out of my hand and then held me at gun point and told me to back away.After, he took a knife and began cutting my moms arm off. This was the scariest, most real, dream I’ve ever had and I woke up feeling sick and disgusted about it.
K.P - 13-Jun-18 @ 11:47 AM
Last Night I had a dream That Me and my parents Moved to a New house it was full with pretty furnitures, I just see everyone in the dream so happy. During the day before I went to sleep We are kinda having Money problems So I guess thats what triggered it ? I don't understand what the dream meant. I'm 14 by the way I just been having really weird dreams.
Kila - 12-Jun-18 @ 10:29 PM
Smlcookie - Your Question:
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Our Response:
You are definitely having some internal battles with yourself here. Have you literally been beating yourself up about something, for instance to do with being disorganised, or regarding some part of your character you dislike or are frustrated with? In dreams such as this, it is always advisable to think it through and try to come to your own conclusion why your subconscious is feeling the need to attack your conscious self. There are always parts of ourselves that almost act separate from what our conscious self tells us we should act like, perhaps it this side that you are trying to resolve.
AnalyseDreams - 8-Jun-18 @ 10:59 AM
Had a dream i was shampooing my hair naked but not in the shower, i started blow drying it when i realized i didnt wash out the shampoo but didnt stop blow drying it. Just then i saw myself rush in the room from another door coming to attack me violently. I closed a sliding closet door on the attacking self which got the attacking selfs hair stuck in the closed door trying to get free when i forced myself to wake up and my real body was still shaking. Took me a bit to relax. Ive read most attacking dreams are internal conflict but why was it me attacking me? Double internal?
Smlcookie - 7-Jun-18 @ 11:49 AM
Emily - Your Question:
Okay, I know I’m stressed out because I’m getting a divorce, I moved, I had to get a new job, etc, etc. The thing is when I google how to make the nightmares go away they always say, “look for something to connect with why you are stressed”. There is ALWAYS a family member or friend I feel comfortable with near me, or like my nephew I feel like a need to protect when things start happening in my dreams. It’s usually dark, and it’s like a poltergeist attacking me. No one can see it, so no one can stop it. Objects get thrown at at very strongly or I, myself, have been thrown across the room (in my dreams). I don’t know how to stop it but I know where the stress is coming from and if I could chill out I would because these dreams feel insanely real and it’s getting harder to sleep at night.

Our Response:
Once your life settles down again your dreams will stop. It is understandable that you feel that you are being hit at from every direction (given the changes and disruption you have had to go through). However, as with every period of upheaval there usually follows a period of calm, then the dreams will subside. The person you are protecting in your dream is you. The key is to take the dream at face value and be a bit kinder to yourself and look after your own well-being through this tumultuous time.
AnalyseDreams - 31-May-18 @ 3:32 PM
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Emily - 31-May-18 @ 6:10 AM
Disturbing Dream - Your Question:
My dream began very pleasantly. With family on a outing to a store that somehow because a sort of theme park/obstacle course. Upon leaving I'm in my car with a man (a former neighbor/friend who I haven't seen for over a year). He driving. He starts trying to "make a move" on my and was extremely persistent despite pushing him away repeatedly and saying no. I ended up calling my boyfriend on the Bluetooth in the car and begging for him to come pick me up from wherever we were.

Our Response:
It sounds as though you have some stresses and it is your boyfriend who is coming to the rescue, or you would like your boyfriend to come to your rescue. Much depends about what the overlying feeling was in the dream. If your were happy your boyfriend came to help, it may mean that your dream is a reinforcement of the feelings of security that you feel when you are with him. This would signify that you feel your relationship is strong.
AnalyseDreams - 16-Apr-18 @ 12:00 PM
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Disturbing Dream - 15-Apr-18 @ 11:59 PM
Shea-Shea - Your Question:
My dream was about me and a friend in a small boat. Then, a huge alligator swims towards us.When it reaches us,it eats my friend and starts bitting my arm. I wake up, and the same arm that was being bitten hurt.

Our Response:
It might be that you were lying on your arm and the physical pressure has overlapped into your dream. This, in turn has created an image to let you know you are in pain. I suspect this dream doesn't mean very much. Dreams that mean something specific usually have strong emotions attached to them which resonate strongly.
AnalyseDreams - 6-Apr-18 @ 2:10 PM
My dream was about me and a friend in a small boat. Then, a huge alligator swims towards us.When it reaches us,it eats my friend and starts bitting my arm. I wake up, and the same arm that was being bitten hurt.
Shea-Shea - 31-Mar-18 @ 7:05 PM
@Mia - wow this does sound like a crazy dream indeed, usually we wake up after being injured straight away. Even though the boyfriend is not your boyfriend, he nevertheless represents him symbolically by wearing the same clothes. It seems that you either feel everyone is out to get you, except your b/f, or you would rather just you and your b/f be left alone to get on with your lives together and not have anyone else involved.
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